We cannot think our way into an intimate relationship with God. Because God is mystery, God escapes our thinking. Thinking can be a portal into God, but it often becomes the only way we approach God. When we think about God, we end up experiencing God as some “thing” out there – in the far-off heavens above or just plain out-of-this-world. Thoughts about God make God appear, as St. Theophan the Recluse says, “outside you.” Intimacy with God means knowing God within you as well as beyond you. Theophan is but one of a horde of holy people who testify that thinking about God is a difficulty if you want to be one with God. He and others suggest unknowing: communing with God beyond the thinking mind in a loving state of interior silence.